I have some good friends at hometown who I wish to catch up with when I get back to hometown, however I mostly travelled back to hometown only once a year, and each time I will stay for only about a week, thus I usually prioritise my time to spend it with my family members, mostly to stay at home, trying to be around with my dad as much as possible, we go to jog (he walks) in most of the morning. In this case, I hardly accept the invitation from my friends to hang out, mostly in cafe.
I had never thought of asking my friend to come to my house, or invite my friends to join me for my routine run, I thought it would sound boring to my friends but I was just too shy to ask. As long as my invitation is sincere, I mostly could get a ‘yes’ from them. I experienced it this year, and I met 3 friends who I have not been meeting for a year. I invited one to my house, went to my nearby park for a run with my another friend, and I asked my friend to pick me up to town to buy groceries (on the way, we had a nice chat, he introduced me to his childhood favourite noodle stall). They were so great catch ups.
At the end, I got a win-win situation, I still stayed at home to be with my family/went for a routine run, but I got to meet my good friends, and to be even better, I created a chance for my family members to understand who my friends are, we even had meals together. Having my friends join me for my routine run, I could get a good chat, at the same time, we get a very refreshing day from the work out. We motivated each other to live healthier lifestyle.
Catching up with friends at cafes is a good option, but it is not the only option for a good catch up. Next time if you found yourself having difficulty to find time to meet friends, ask them to come to your house, or get them to join your routine activities, you might be surprised how willing they actually will be. Sometimes one party just needs to make the first move.